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Camera ShyI have worked for my company for over 20 years. Earlier this year, I began an expat assignment to France, which had been my aspiration for many years. In a cruel twist of fate, soon after arriving, I was diagnosed with breast cancer, requiring immediate surgery, and I am now undergoing chemotherapy. I am continuing to work through my treatments. My team here is clearly aware and has been very supportive throughout. My work requires daily contact (interviews) via Microsoft Teams with global colleagues, many of whom I am meeting for the first time. My dilemma is what, if anything, I should say as I appear on the screen with a hat or a cap covering my hair loss at the start of the call. (My appearance is different than my Teams photo.) To this point, I haven’t said anything as the calls start, but it feels so awkward and uncomfortable for me. Turning off the camera is not an option. Any advice would be gratefully appreciated.
— Anonymous
I want to start off by acknowledging that this sounds incredibly awkward and uncomfortable — but that it’s not your responsibility to explain anything about your appearance to anyone you come in contact with. It just isn’t. That said, I’m optimistic about the sensitivity of your colleagues — even new ones — to your situation and believe that most of them are or will be smart or intuitive enough to understand that the presence of a hat or a cap on your head (with no hair visible) suggests that you’re going through some health treatments, specifically chemotherapy.
My advice is that you keep your condition to yourself unless someone asks you directly, in which case you may want to share more detailed information about your situation in a more “offline” environment. I don’t say this because I believe that a cancer diagnosis is something to be ashamed of (nor are the side effects of chemotherapy). And I don’t say this because I’m dismissive of your discomfort. I say this because I believe that you run the risk of feeling even more awkwardness and discomfort by starting off video calls by explaining your cancer diagnosis. Because though people may understand the broad outlines of what is going on, their reactions to this information, or lack thereof, may disappoint you in ways that you can’t even imagine. What if your disclosure is met with uncomfortable silence? What if someone communicates sympathy in a way that feels inauthentic? You may feel even more awkward and unsure of yourself, which is the last thing you need when you’re juggling what sounds like a demanding (though much-wanted) new job and treatment for cancer. It’s a lot for anyone to handle. (And you’re in a new country, to boot!) Focus on you, not on what people may think or feel, and you’ll be golden.
Good luck.
A Manager Who Can’t ManageI am a manager at a small nonprofit, and we’ve been experiencing serious problems lately. I strongly suspect that most or all of these problems are due to my co-worker (whom I will call “Dave”), who manages a different group within our organization. Dave is a brilliant and kind person, and we generally get along very well. That said, I don’t think he’s meant to be a manager (and even he would tell you that he doesn’t like the management aspects of his job). I suspect that most of his time is spent coming up with and developing brilliant ideas that our boss (rightly) is very impressed with, rather than managing his group. That leaves his group largely figuring things out on its own, and it is starting to make more and more mistakes that cause my group much more stress and work. They are also becoming an increasing existential threat to our organization as funders and other stakeholders become frustrated and alienated. I don’t have direct evidence of any of this, but the anecdotal evidence has been piling up more and more until I can’t ignore it. Dave and our boss (the executive director of our organization) have a friendship going way back, and I’m not sure if our boss is aware of how much Dave is checked out. What do I do? I could firebomb my relationship with Dave if I talk to him about it; I could firebomb my relationship with my boss if I talk to him about it. We are all underfunded, overworked and stretched thin, which is probably not going to be any different if I go work for another nonprofit. I’m not sure what options I have other than trying to find another job — and in this economy!
— Anonymous
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